People think being alone makes you lonely, but I don't think that's true. Being surrounded by the wrong people is the loneliest thing in the world.
- Kim Culbertson
Take a moment to think about the people in your life whom you hang around the most, and talk to the most. What do they make you feel when you're with them? Do they make you happy? Do they have a positive outlook on life? Do they believe in you and your goals and dreams? Or are they negative all the time? Do they complain about their life and how everything is bad and won't get better? Do they pull you down?
We want to surround ourselves with the people who bring good feelings into our life, who lift us up rather than pull us down. I'm sure you've heard it before, but we really are a product of the people we hang around the most. The things you hear and talk about become your inner dialog and that becomes your own thoughts - about yourself and the perception of the world around you.
I want to encourage you to take some time today to think about your relationships, and focus on the ones who bring quality to your life. If there are relationships you have held onto because they are people who have been in your life for a long time, but they are no longer growing with you, or they are always pulling you down, it is time to let them go. You don't have to keep them in your life. It's OK to let negative influences go no matter the past. People come into your life for a reason, but they don't have to stay forever.
Also, if you feel the need to always surround yourself with people and never can be alone why are you afraid of being by yourself? What void are you trying to fill? We can only have truly good relationships with others when we feel fulfilled ourselves and love and like ourselves. If you feel like this, take time for some self care. Try to discover the things you enjoy doing for you. Dig deep and journal about the things you are grateful for in your life, and what you like about yourself. These are just some simple things you can do to start to develop the relationship with yourself.
We only have this life and when you think about it, why would we want to waste our precious time hanging around people who don't make us feel good and who bring a constant stream of negativity into our life? It's time to move away from those people and create a circle of friendships who lift each other up.